Red Pressures – Controlling the Heat!

Archive for the ‘Agony Aunt’ Category

Parenting issues in 20??

Parents, Children and Young People need to wise up!

Are you up to speed with some of the serious challenges facing children, young people and parenting today?


Parenting Matters!

Umm yes – parenting in 20?? Is very different to parenting teenagers 10 – 15 years plus ago – in my opinion. What’s different you may ask? Well lots of things are different which calls for many different parental skills and additional knowledge, resources, courage and nerve!


We now have Academy Schools and Free School’s neither of which is accountable to the Local Authority. What does this mean? Quite a lot actually as the Local Authority are no longer in a position to hold all schools to account and to provide the high-level oversight, scrutiny and support services that they use to provide.


How do you detect if your child is using alcohol or other substances? Yes of course your child is very sensible and wouldn’t use alcohol or illicit substances!


How do you control you child’s access to the Internet and how much time they spend on it?

Mobile Telephones and other such Internet accessible technological devices.

In 2015, a high percentage of children and young people either have their own mobile or Internet accessible device. So how do you control access and use of such for their own protection?

Bullying, Harassment, Intimidation

What do you do when your child is bullied in their school, locality, by their so-called friends and peers? How do you advise, guide and steer your son or daughter if they are being subjected to such horrific and soul-destroying behaviours? Well that’s if you even know that they are being subjected to such behaviours in the first place!

Social Media

How do you control the access your child has to social media and what impact can social media have on your child? On their heart, mind, body, physical, emotional and mental wellbeing?


What do you do when popularity is very important to your child and their popularity is being threatened?  Do you know the impact and what it means to your child to gain “likes” on social media?

Check back again soon as we discuss each of these issues further from a parental and a young persons perspective.  Better still, if you are a young person, parent or have something relevant to this post to share and if you would like us to consider adding your blog or your experience, please send your information to including your telephone number, email address / contact details.


Yvonne Cherrington DipSW MCMI

11 Tips to Keeping the Flame Alive in your Intimate Relationship

11 Tips to Promote Lasting Intimate Relationships

Nobody said relationships were easy, but guess what – if you don’t nurture and look after your relationship you will loose it!

10 ways to keep your marriage alive.

Nobody said relationships were easy, but guess what – if you don’t nurture and look after your relationship you will loose it!

Relationships don’t simply look after themselves – so why do couples seem so surprised that their relationship has come to an end?

Nobody said relationships were easy, but guess what – if you don’t nurture and look after your relationship you will loose it!

1) Kissing: Kiss on the lips when you say goodbye and when your partner returns to you each day – each time. Don’t forget to give full eye contact and smile too.

2) Attention: Spend time giving full attention when you listen to how your partners day has gone. Take the time to actively listen to what is being said to you and offer praise and demonstrate interest in what is being said to you.

3) Communication: Share the positives of your day with your partner and let them know if there is something specific that is problematic to you in your work or life. Let your partner know how they can support you. Don’t leave it to chance or make it a guessing game as to what is troubling you and what remedies you are seeking from them to help you get through. Remember that the way they used to support you in the past may not be the same support that you welcome today – as we all change! (and visa versa).

4) Intimacy: Don’t for get the power and importance of touch. Make time to physically enjoy each other. Remember that as we get older, physical touch remains very important, if it is not so important for you, it is imperative that you give due regard to your partners thoughts and feeling around this issue. Notwithstanding such, it remains important for partners to stay physically connected with each other. Do remember that as well as being sons and daughters, fathers and mothers, brothers and sisters, aunties and uncles, we all remain individuals and lovers. It is amazing that physically, we all sexually mature at different ages and our sexual needs may differ each month or year depending on what our life experiences have been. Nevertheless, physical contact can be a beautiful bind.

5) Relate: Ensure that you do something positive and personal for your partner each week – better still, each day. Take the time to make each other a drink, buy flowers, chocolates, simply something. It does not have to be of monetary value or expensive simply personal effort. It is important to demonstrate that you care, that your in love with your partner and don’t simply assume that they know this to be a fact.

6) Commitment: Be mindful that everyone has highs and lows in there lives, ups and downs. Commitment should transcend through our individual highs and lows thus allowing us to offer extended support to our partners when they need it. Sometimes this may be required when you feel that you don’t have it to give. At these times be open and honest with your partner whilst agreeing what levels of support you can realistically give. This may simply be 30 minutes of focused time, listening, holding, financial support or giving extended consideration.

7) Complementary: Be complimentary – don’t forget to look at your partner and notice their difference. By this I mean, notice a change in hair style, new cloths, new job. It is important to complement your partners achievements, physical appearance and of course the person that they are maturing into. We all change in time and overtime. If we do not work together to hold onto what we share in common, those commonalities will diminish and the things that have changed about us and our difference will drive wedges between partners. When this happens, either or both partners seek to find attention, fun and pleasure outside of the relationship which helps to bring divide, separation and unhappiness within the relationship.

8) Communication skills: Give your partner eye contact: This is so important, don’t forget to engage with your eyes to your partner, look at them and communicate your love, physically, emotionally, and mentally. You can do this by simply noticing your partner, demonstrating you care and are connected to them.

9) Clothes: Don’t forget to wear nice underwear and notice when your partner is wearing nice underwear for you. Notice and compliment your partners new cloths or better still buy an article of clothing for them (gifts). Our body changes in shape and size over the years. Childbirth, sickness, stress, time and a multitude of factors can change our physical appearance but that does not necessarily change the way we feel about ourselves or our partner. Sometimes our partners need a little encouragement to see the beauty in themselves. Sometimes our partners need a little encouragement to see the beauty that continues to exist in their partners but if the love and the will is there from both partners, you both have the tools to find your way.

10) Trust: It is good to share trust with each other and to demonstrate that you continue to have trust in your partner. It is important to acknowledge when your partner is reaching out for you or seeking reassurance that trust remains in tact. If trust has been broken within the relationship then it may be a good idea to seek appropriate help to enable trust to be reconnected. Reconnection can take place if both partners what this.

11) Work-life balance: Work-life balance can be complex to achieve with all those competing factors. Be mindful that having long lasting intimate relationships with your intimate partner will help you to achieve work-life balance. It is so important that you make the time to enjoy your partners company and to make the time to actively be with them. This means to be in the moment with them. To do things with them and to spend positive time together. To touch base with them and share the good things in their lives with them not simply the children, the bills, the debt, the family life! Keep your relationship connected. Keep the togetherness alive. Do not allow finances, work, Facebook, twitter, or technology to steal your precious time away from your partner.

Red Pressures can work with you and your partner to put the spice back into your relationship.

Yvonne Cherrington MCMI

Red Pressures

Tel : 07794 524 772
: 01325 529 759
Email :
Web :

29th May 2012

Does bullying happen to adults? #Darlington #BNI #NEFollowers

Topic: Bullying

Q: Does bullying happen to adults?
Being bullied isn’t only an issue for children and young people. Bullying is also very prevalent within the home and the work place. Bullying and harassment can take place for men as well as women of all ages.

Do adults get bullied?

Is being bullied something that only children and young people incur?

Q: Why do people sometimes feel bullied within the work place?
For a multitude of reasons, people feel the need, desire or will to abuse their power over their subordinates or colleagues.

Q: Can managers be bullied by their employees?
Of course, situations do arise where subordinates, or colleagues within the work place bully and harass their managers too.

Q: Can men be bullied within their homes?
Yes, domestic abuse can take place between male and female partners where the female partner inflicts physical and or mental abuse upon their male partners. This can become very embarrassing for men and an issue that they find exceptionally difficult and embarrassing to seek help to deal with. Which can often lead men to unnecessarily suffer for continuous periods without seeking any help or support to deal with domestic abuse.

What can you do if you are being bullied?
This is actually a very difficult issue as some organisations penalise the victim for reporting being bullied. Some members of the workforce may also be inclined to further seek to victimise the bully and side with the perpetrator. It is important to note that fair play does not always take place.

There may be many options that you may wish to consider and one option may be to seek a planned exit from the situation that you are facing as you may ultimately win the battle but not the war that you are dealing with. It is important to be very much aware that fighting bullies can be painful and time consuming. It may also have a detrimental effect upon your health, family and emotional wellbeing.

Although many organisations have excellent policies and procedures in place, this does not necessarily mean that they will effectively and efficiently invoke their grievance, bullying or harassment procedures.

All this said, careful thinking and strategies need to be invoked by the victim, making sure that they have strong and effective support mechanisms in place to support them through their decision making processes as the decision to fight or flight should be yours and supported by your key others too.

Consider invoking the services of life coach to support you through the change and action process.

Red Pressures
Controlling the Heat!

X Factor is the emotional roller coaster worth the potential rewards?

Judges House Finalists Emerge

X Factor Reveal Their Finalists

I felt quite concerned for the contestants following Sunday nights show.  I felt it was unbeliveably harsh of Cheryl to knock out such high calibre contestants in favour of two contestents who did not sucessfully complete their auditions.  Yes it is show business but at what cost to the individual?

Thought it was soul destroying for Dannii to tell Paije that he needed more personality in his performance.  Surely there are better ways of letting people down without emotionally beating them up on camera?  Is there any support provided to the families of these contestants to enable them to support their loved ones in the short, medium and long term?

Simon on the other hand was considerate and compassionate and desplayed a very sensitive and caring approach.  Well done Simon.

Louis appears to be even more emotional this serious.  His passion and compassion for his fellow country man is outstanding.  He appears to have very strong values and high degrees of compassion.

The other concern is the age and vulnerability of some of the contestants.  I  truly wonder whether any form of counselling is available for those who are not successful at Judges Houses.

Cheryl presents as such a caring and compassionate person and I truly didn’t welcome seeing her being so unfair.

Personally I found it very distressing to see Cher so broken too.

I have loved Nicole (Pussycat Doll) being on the show.  What a touch of class she has been.  She is such a physically beautiful women who displayed great wisdom, knowledge and contributed much to the show during each of her appearances.  Lets hope they bring her back too.

Red Pressures Agony Aunt

Controlling the Heat!

Case Studies

Sharing Case Studies

Reflecting upon evidence of success

Service Evaluation: Full report compiled inclusive of executive summary to enable you to show your services measured impact upon your customers coupled with evidence of your organisations quality assurance.  Demonstrates the impact that your service has had on your customers thus provides you with an evidence based report of your credibility.

Case Study:

Red Pressures was invited to undertake a service evaluation of one of the Council’s leading children’s centre.  This commission involved providing interim management whilst gathering substantial evidence to support the content of the report.   Following submission of full report, this has led to the service provider offering ongoing role as change agent to lead, manage and change manage the service whilst implementing all recommendations.


Management Investigations: Don’t be afraid of employee tribunals, don’t be afraid to independently investigate incidents that arise within your organisation.  Full report supplied inclusive of executive summary, conclusions and recommendations.

Case Study:

Completed management investigation for a Local Authority Children’s Service which led to the Assistant Director being able to challenge their Ofsted grading (external inspection framework) thus successfully improving their star ratings.


Youth Services: Red Pressures provides a wide range of Youth Support Services from our executive team.  Services include: Interim Management, Strategic  direction and input, Consultancy, Service Integration, Quality assurance. Youth Inclusion, Street-based Provisions, NEET and much more.

Case Study:

Have worked closely with a local not for profit organisaiton to develop its football services across the Town, this has led to the organization now requesting that Red Pressures support them to achieve formal business status and support them to fundraise across the Town and develop their legal constitution, policies and procedures.


Social Work: Independent social work services inclusive of direct work with children, young people and their families.  Professional friend/supporter services, advocacy and support.  Fostering and Adoption support services available including mentoring and coaching support.


Coaching and Mentoring: available to support you the work and personal issues and transitions within your life.  All coaches are exceptionally experienced and from wide ranging professional services inclusive of public service careers.  Coaching and Mentoring support available to foster careers and adopters from experienced professionally qualified social workers.

Case Study

Service provided in an interim role has led to the commissioning of Red Pressures as a coach and mentor within this service provision for members of the senior executive team.  Reports to date are that significant improvements all round have been derived due to the input of her Red Pressures coach and mentor.


Red Pressures also provides bespoke safeguarding , diversity and leadership and management training that is designed to ensure return on investment.

Red Pressures Fundraising for Diabetes UK #GNR

Red Pressures have entered two contestants to raise money for Diabetes UK in the #GNR.  Over £500 pounds for Diabetes UK has been raised through PRAXAIR who are more than happy to sponsor this worthy cause that may be treatable especially if caught early.

Diabetes can cause significant problems to children, young people, adults and the elderly if left untreated and if diagnoses is late.

Good luck to Red Pressures participants and everyone else taking part in our great Northeast activity the Great North Run

Jonathan’s grandparents both suffered from type 2 diabetes.

NEBG Magazine on Red Pressures

Business Link Takes Pressure off Expanding Firm

A family-owned business is developing its reputation and expanding its client base, after receiving support from Business Link.

Controlling the Heat!

Red Pressures featured in NEBG Magazine

Darlington based Red Pressures offers a range of services including social work, training, business support such as leadership management, youth services and sports and life coaching.  
The business was launched by Yvonne Cherrington in early 2007 who wanted to utilise her wealth of social work, organisational and business expertise to set up her own venture, initially working with organisations who needed management support during a gap in recruitment.
Keen to get the business off to the best possible start, Yvonne and husband Mike approached Business Link for advice and guidance on their business idea from the outset, which marked the start of an ongoing relationship with the business support organisation.
The projects that Yvonne was involved with at this time, including her first role as Head of Safeguarding for the States of Guernsey, often meant spending time away from her family – Mike, a specialist in youth, sports and life coaching, and four children aged between 10 and 24 years old.  
The role eventually led to the family uprooting from their Darlington home town to Devon after Yvonne was head hunted by Devon County Council to provide a change management programme.  
Business Link adviser Suzanne Henty ensured that there was a smooth transition to Business Link in Devon. 
During this time, Mike, spent his time further developing his coaching and mentoring client base, and attracted clients from as far afield as Hong Kong.
Keen to return to Darlington and establish Red Pressures’ roots in the  region, with Mike a permanent member of the team, the family returned in August last year and continued their relationship with Business Link and also joined a number of networking organisations to raise their profile in the area.
Business Link adviser Suzanne Henty has been able to provide a wide range of support to help the company through its first stage of growth.  As well as ongoing mentoring and advice, she has been instrumental in helping the business to access funds via the North East England Investment Centre (NEEIC) towards the development of an e-commerce website.
In addition, Business Link skills adviser Colin Hobson has been able to support a range of training and development initiatives, including identifying funds towards Executive Coaching and Leadership Mentoring and referring the business to Northumberland Business Services to complete the Leadership and Management Programme.  He was also able to provide advice on locating suitable premises which has helped heighten the company’s profile.
Red Pressures is now in the throes of expansion and is providing a range of services to sole traders, SMEs, local authorities and voluntary and community sector organisations, and has seen a significant increase in its regional client base since returning to the area.  The company, which employs six members of staff, including eldest sons Luke and Jonathan, is now looking to recruit two additional employees.
Mike Cherrington from Red Pressures said: “Suzanne and Colin have been instrumental in supporting the development of Red Pressures through ongoing advice and guidance.”
Business Link’s Suzanne Henty said: “Yvonne and Mike are determined to succeed in what is currently a difficult marketplace.  Both are extremely focused and have overcome a number of obstacles to succeed.  I look forward to helping them achieve their future goals and to sustain their growth.”
Skills adviser Colin Hobson added: “Red Pressures continues to look for ways to progress and develop the business. They’ve established a great working relationship with Business Link and I hope this continues as the business grows.”

Submitted on 05.08.10

Stimulating Holiday Fun for kids 8 – 13 years

Red Pressures - Controlling the Heat! by supporting fun activities for children

Partnership Working for the benefit of children

Spraire Lads and Lasses are running multi activities courses at Queen Elizabeth Sixth Form College at Abbey Road, Darlington in partnership with Red Pressures.

This will include Football, Cricket, Athletics, Rounders etc.

The course commences Wednesday 4th August for three days including Thursday and Friday. 10 – 3pm.

Cost is £7 per day or £20 for the 3 days. To book a place, please contact Dave or Linda Scott on 01325 253581

Sorry, places are limited thus offered on a first come first served basis.

Red Pressures

Help Wanted – Social Media Etiquette

Is there any one out there who can share social media etiquette tips with us?

Red Pressures Controlling the Heat! by becoming social media aware

Help Wanted - What is social media etiquette?

Yvonne thinks that she has broken social media etiquette on many occasions by her lack of knowledge in this area. Yvonne has actually been bullied (well he attempted to bully Yvonne) for posting on linked in!

Free Money – Get Yours

We don’t know how long the mentoring fund will remain available but as you know, there are many funding cuts taking place.

Tag Cloud