11 Tips to Promote Lasting Intimate Relationships
Nobody said relationships were easy, but guess what – if you don’t nurture and look after your relationship you will loose it!Relationships don’t simply look after themselves – so why do couples seem so surprised that their relationship has come to an end?
Nobody said relationships were easy, but guess what – if you don’t nurture and look after your relationship you will loose it!
1) Kissing: Kiss on the lips when you say goodbye and when your partner returns to you each day – each time. Don’t forget to give full eye contact and smile too.
2) Attention: Spend time giving full attention when you listen to how your partners day has gone. Take the time to actively listen to what is being said to you and offer praise and demonstrate interest in what is being said to you.
3) Communication: Share the positives of your day with your partner and let them know if there is something specific that is problematic to you in your work or life. Let your partner know how they can support you. Don’t leave it to chance or make it a guessing game as to what is troubling you and what remedies you are seeking from them to help you get through. Remember that the way they used to support you in the past may not be the same support that you welcome today – as we all change! (and visa versa).
4) Intimacy: Don’t for get the power and importance of touch. Make time to physically enjoy each other. Remember that as we get older, physical touch remains very important, if it is not so important for you, it is imperative that you give due regard to your partners thoughts and feeling around this issue. Notwithstanding such, it remains important for partners to stay physically connected with each other. Do remember that as well as being sons and daughters, fathers and mothers, brothers and sisters, aunties and uncles, we all remain individuals and lovers. It is amazing that physically, we all sexually mature at different ages and our sexual needs may differ each month or year depending on what our life experiences have been. Nevertheless, physical contact can be a beautiful bind.
5) Relate: Ensure that you do something positive and personal for your partner each week – better still, each day. Take the time to make each other a drink, buy flowers, chocolates, simply something. It does not have to be of monetary value or expensive simply personal effort. It is important to demonstrate that you care, that your in love with your partner and don’t simply assume that they know this to be a fact.
6) Commitment: Be mindful that everyone has highs and lows in there lives, ups and downs. Commitment should transcend through our individual highs and lows thus allowing us to offer extended support to our partners when they need it. Sometimes this may be required when you feel that you don’t have it to give. At these times be open and honest with your partner whilst agreeing what levels of support you can realistically give. This may simply be 30 minutes of focused time, listening, holding, financial support or giving extended consideration.
7) Complementary: Be complimentary – don’t forget to look at your partner and notice their difference. By this I mean, notice a change in hair style, new cloths, new job. It is important to complement your partners achievements, physical appearance and of course the person that they are maturing into. We all change in time and overtime. If we do not work together to hold onto what we share in common, those commonalities will diminish and the things that have changed about us and our difference will drive wedges between partners. When this happens, either or both partners seek to find attention, fun and pleasure outside of the relationship which helps to bring divide, separation and unhappiness within the relationship.
8) Communication skills: Give your partner eye contact: This is so important, don’t forget to engage with your eyes to your partner, look at them and communicate your love, physically, emotionally, and mentally. You can do this by simply noticing your partner, demonstrating you care and are connected to them.
9) Clothes: Don’t forget to wear nice underwear and notice when your partner is wearing nice underwear for you. Notice and compliment your partners new cloths or better still buy an article of clothing for them (gifts). Our body changes in shape and size over the years. Childbirth, sickness, stress, time and a multitude of factors can change our physical appearance but that does not necessarily change the way we feel about ourselves or our partner. Sometimes our partners need a little encouragement to see the beauty in themselves. Sometimes our partners need a little encouragement to see the beauty that continues to exist in their partners but if the love and the will is there from both partners, you both have the tools to find your way.
10) Trust: It is good to share trust with each other and to demonstrate that you continue to have trust in your partner. It is important to acknowledge when your partner is reaching out for you or seeking reassurance that trust remains in tact. If trust has been broken within the relationship then it may be a good idea to seek appropriate help to enable trust to be reconnected. Reconnection can take place if both partners what this.
11) Work-life balance: Work-life balance can be complex to achieve with all those competing factors. Be mindful that having long lasting intimate relationships with your intimate partner will help you to achieve work-life balance. It is so important that you make the time to enjoy your partners company and to make the time to actively be with them. This means to be in the moment with them. To do things with them and to spend positive time together. To touch base with them and share the good things in their lives with them not simply the children, the bills, the debt, the family life! Keep your relationship connected. Keep the togetherness alive. Do not allow finances, work, Facebook, twitter, or technology to steal your precious time away from your partner.
Red Pressures can work with you and your partner to put the spice back into your relationship.
Yvonne Cherrington MCMI
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29th May 2012